Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you a new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.

Without further ado, this weeks words are:

words to live by #9 family comes first

This last week has been a hectic one and and I have got seriously behind on my blogging and commenting on the all the linkies I joined up with and it is going to take me a few days to catch up. One thing I won’t do though is take away any more time from my family in order to do that catching up. I love writing this blog and it has given me back a piece of me that I didn’t know was missing (although I certainly felt something was), but family always has and always will come first.

Next week my husband will be going back to sea for the next 10-12 weeks and I want to spend as much time together as a family as possible while we can, especially with him missing Christmas. For that reason I have decided to take the rest of the next two weeks off. I will still comment on the linkies I joined to last week and reply to comments on here and twitter but I won’t be taking on any extra commitments until mid December. If you are visiting this from a linky then I have already had that time off as I won’t be joining it to any until then ;).

I did want to spend a little more time writing this post and really get into why I find it so important but just as I started some family we haven’t seen for months turned up unexpectedly for a visit, so I turned the computer off and really enjoyed their company while they were here. And that is what this post is really all about.

I’m not the only one who thinks putting family first is important. As always, here are a few great quotes to back up my message:

“I’ve always put my family first and that’s just the way it is.” Jamie Lee Curtis

“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise man grows it under his feet.” Proverb

“I balance family and career by doing what makes me the happiest! That for me, without question, is putting my family and kids first.” Bridgette Wilson

“Family is not an important thing, it’s everything.” Michael J Fox

“Family time is sacred time and should be protected and respected.” Boyd K Packer

“At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, a parent.” Barbara Bush

“Family is the most important thing in the world.” Princess Diana

Enjoy your family time x

UPDATE:

I enjoyed taking time off and really made the most of it spending time with the family. We didn’t do anything special, just enjoyed each others company without any outward distractions. My husband went back to Sea on Thursday (8th) and while it was tempting to rush straight back to the blog I knew I needed to take some extra time. And it was time well spent. Up until this weekend I hadn’t done any Christmas shopping at all but now I’m almost done, just a few stocking things to get.

I have lots of catching up to do and if you have commented on here or sent me messages on twitter over the past couple of weeks I will get round to responding in the next few days. Before jumping back in with both feet though I want to try and keep some of that special family time and create a schedule for myself that keeps more balance. This will be the last Words To Live By post until the new year and once my son breaks up from school I will be playing things by ear. I may post a few things that I have been meaning to get around to but I will mostly be concentrating on setting my goals for the new year so that I can come back with a plan of action, and of course spending time with family having a great Christmas.

How do you juggle family time and blogging with all the other commitments in your life? Do you work set hours each day? I’d really love some advice and may compile any tips into a post to help others struggling with the same issue (I will obviously give proper accreditation for all tips received) x

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78 thoughts on “Words To Live By #9: Family Comes First

  1. As usual, great words to live by! Enjoy your little break spending time with your family x
    Lucy’s Locket recently posted…Who do you think you are?My Profile

    Posted on 29 November, 2016 at 11:58 pm
    1. Thank you, I will x

      Posted on 30 November, 2016 at 7:03 pm
  2. Great post. Great quotes. And great words to live by… Thank you! <3
    Lisa Pomerantz recently posted…For richer or poorer…My Profile

    Posted on 30 November, 2016 at 12:13 am
    1. Aww, thank you x

      Posted on 30 November, 2016 at 7:04 pm
  3. beautiful post! I love this series you do, always inspires me! I agree sometimes link ups na blogging and social media can wait! Family is the most important thing in the world. Have a beautiful day xx #familyfun

    Posted on 2 December, 2016 at 12:50 pm
    1. Thank you so much, your posts always inspire me so this means a lot x

      Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 6:03 am
      1. coming back from my #mg linky, still love this post!

        Posted on 17 December, 2016 at 6:01 am
  4. People today have such difficulty finding balance. I know I do. This is a great collection of quotes. Enjoy your family!
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    Posted on 2 December, 2016 at 6:38 pm
    1. Thank you, you’re so right, it can be a hard juggling act at times but it’s essential to remember what’s truly important in life x

      Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 6:11 am
  5. It’s so hard to trying to balance everything isn’t it. I link up first thing in the morning when the kids are still sleeping and I comment after the kids have gone to bed. As far blogging, I only write one post a week now because I found I was missing out on too much quality time with the kids and I only write on weekend evenings. I haven’t written a post this weekend though because I was busy wrapping christmas presents. I think it’s all all about prioritising and like you, my family comes above all else.

    Posted on 12 December, 2016 at 8:24 pm
    1. It really is. Sounds like you have the balance sorted. Great tip about linking in the morning and commenting on the evening, I try to do the same but find I join so many it seeps into other times too!

      Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 6:21 pm
  6. family is everything. I adore my close knit family, and no matter how crazy or wierd or rude the rest of my family can be, they are my everything #BigPinkLink

    Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 7:24 am
    1. I’m with you there! x

      Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 6:22 pm
  7. Such very wise words. It’s so easy to feel under pressure to keep up with the blogligations as I like to call them, but actually our families are the people who need us and need to be put first. It’s nice to hear that you got to spend some quality time together while your hubby was home. Thanks for linking up with us at #DreamTeam x

    Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 3:32 pm
    1. Thank you. I like the term ‘blogligations’, may have to use that one x

      Posted on 13 December, 2016 at 6:24 pm
  8. Absolutely. I so think you did the right thing in making most of family time and having hubby home. It must have been lovely. I don’t blog in the day – I can’t really my one two year old combo won’t allow for it and neither should they so I try and get it all in in the evenings. That though eats into time with Mr Tammy which annoys him too. I try and have time where I don’t do it say on evening a week and I am certainly taking time off over Christmas. Right now I am sat at the hairdressers doing my commenting – I fit it in where I can. Have a lovely Christmas and thank you for joining us at #familyfun
    Tammymum recently posted…#FamilyFun…Week 15My Profile

    Posted on 14 December, 2016 at 2:34 pm
    1. Thank you, taking the time off made all the difference. Having one night off a week sounds like a great idea. Have a great Christmas x

      Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 7:52 pm
  9. I’d noticed you’d gone awol! You do completely right by taking the time off. Family time is so important. I’d say I’ve found a good balance at the moment. My advice is decide on a big goal. Then work out what you need to do to achieve that goal, then try not to deviate from this. If it doesn’t work then try something else. I went from trying to post something every day to 3/4 days a week. Happy Days, an Outdoor post, MessandPlay then #FamilyFun. I’ve learnt not to beat myself up if I don’t post something or join in linkies. Life is too short! I go through phases of wanting to make money from my blog but really I just want to enjoy it for now while my kid (s) are young and then I might be able to do the money thing when they go to school. I’m going for the long game!! Hope that helps, just DM or email if you want to chat about anything!! Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun
    Karen : TwoTinyHands recently posted…#FamilyFun Week 15 – Ho Ho Have a Nice Christmas!My Profile

    Posted on 14 December, 2016 at 9:04 pm
    1. Aww, thank you Karen. I’m going to spend the next few weeks working out my goals and the steps I need to take to achieve them and then set up a schedule that hopefully works for the whole family x

      Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 7:56 pm
  10. You’re so right Family does come first, and sometimes we have to remember that amidst our busy lives, juggling blog and family! Remembering to be present in the moment and not always be ready to check social media and such! Sounds like you enjoyed your break! Have a lovely Christmas! #familyfun

    Posted on 14 December, 2016 at 11:01 pm
    1. Thank you, I am trying hard to stay off social media every two seconds. The world will not end if I don’t reply to comments or tweets for a few hours and my kids will certainly thank me for it x

      Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 8:02 pm
  11. Some really lovely quotes and I’m glad you enjoyed your family time x #SharingtheBlogLove

    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 7:22 am
    1. Thank you, it was much needed x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:26 pm
  12. Couldn’t agree with you more. Family is and always will be everything to me and I never think twice about putting my family first! Love the quote from Barbara Bush. #ablogginggoodtime

    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 9:52 am
    1. Thank you, that quote is so true and something I think people need reminding of every now and then x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:28 pm
  13. So glad you all got to spend some time together before your husband went away. I hope you all have a lovely Christmas. #Sharingthebloglove
    Mummy Times Two recently posted…Why I Believe Neebo Will Make A Real Difference To Families Like OursMy Profile

    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 10:35 am
    1. Thank you. Christmas was hard without him but we made the best of it x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:29 pm
  14. I couldn’t agree more with these words especially at this time of year and especially when 12 weeks at sea is concerned! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xx

    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 1:04 pm
    1. Thank you, the fact he goes away for such long periods certainly makes us appreciate our time together all the more x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:32 pm
  15. Ah it must be so tough have your husband gone for months at a time! Family definitely should come first. All of your quotes are right on the money – especially the one about focusing on what’s right at our feet! Isn’t that the truth?! Thank you for sharing with us at Candid Cuddles, I hope you will be back again in 2017 🙂 Have a fabulous Christmas & all the best for a happy, healthy new year!! xx
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    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 2:07 pm
    1. Thank you. It is tough but it also means he gets long stretches at home too (although they always feel too short). Hope you had a great Christmas x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:34 pm
  16. Good on you for having a break. It can be so tempting to just spend “a few minutes” doing a quick bit of Blogmin, but it ALWAYS takes longer than you expect! I have a rule that I don’t join any linkies on a weekend because that is family time. #CoolMumClub
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    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 6:24 pm
    1. Just popping back again from #SharingTheBlogLove
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      Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 8:28 pm
    2. Your are so right, it is never just a few minutes. I’m going to be much stricter with my schedule this year so that family time isn’t affected x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:35 pm
  17. This all sounds very sensible – I have a very similar approach to you – blogging is to be done in the evening and when kids are napping so as not to impinge on family life – it is only a rather addictive hobby for me after all. It is defintely meant to enhance family life not to detract from it. #ablogginggoodtime
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    Posted on 15 December, 2016 at 9:23 pm
    1. Thank you, you’re right about being addictive. I’ve set myself a much stricter schedule this year to keep it from encroaching on family time x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:36 pm
  18. I try to abide by this rule. “family comes first.” I find it very difficult at times as a full-time working mom. I have worked for some total jerks that don’t believe in this saying.
    #ablogginggoodtime

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 3:39 am
    1. It’s amazing how many people disregard it isn’t it? I hope you’re not working for any of them now x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:39 pm
  19. I completely agree – family time is the most important thing. I’m so pleased you enjoyed your time together and I hope you have a lovely Christmas too. I’ll be taking a blogging break over Christmas too, and I’m planning to enjoy every minute of it. Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
    Katy – Hot Pink Wellingtons recently posted…#SharingtheBlogLove #25My Profile

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 8:18 am
    1. Thank you, I hope you had a great time off too x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:40 pm
  20. Ah i love this – I am the same, heavily pregnant with my 3rd it has been important for me to spend as much time with my family. My blog has no doubt took a fall (I don’t check stats anyway but I dread to see what they would be this month!) but for me family will always come first no doubt about it. #mg #picknmix
    natalie recently posted…Staying sylish & saving money with my favourite voucher codesMy Profile

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 10:17 am
    1. My stats were practically non existent for December but it was all worth it. You’ll certainly have your hands full in the new year, such an exciting time x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:43 pm
  21. Yep, a wake-up call I constantly need. Family (and people in general!) first. So easy to be distracted and sucked into work and ‘other things that need doing in the virtual world’ while little (and big) humans are waiting in the wings for you to be properly ‘present’!

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 10:35 am
    1. I really does suck you in doesn’t it? Like a rabbit hole!

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:44 pm
  22. They are great words to live by and what a wonderful idea to have them displayed to remind you. I may be taking a leaf out of your book in the New Year #pocolo
    Emma recently posted…Welcome to the world…My Profile

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 1:18 pm
    1. Thank you, let me know how it goes if you do x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:45 pm
  23. Excellent! It’s great that you take time out for your family, I am working on a blog schedule for the new year so I can get a better balance #PicknMix
    luce recently posted…Blogmas Day 15, ‘Pinecones, Parcels and the Beach’My Profile

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 1:22 pm
    1. I’m working with a new much stricter schedule this year in the hope of achieving that elusive ‘balance’, good luck with yours x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:46 pm
  24. I’m pleased you got to spend time together before he went away, it must be hard knowing he won’t be here for Christmas. My family will always come first, time is precious. I’m looking forward to having a blogging break over Christmas. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

    Posted on 16 December, 2016 at 8:13 pm
    1. Thank you, it was hard but we certainly made the best of it, you have to when you have kids. Hope you enjoyed your break x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:48 pm
  25. Time with family is always important. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost
    Wishing you and your beautiful family have a lovely holidays! xx

    Posted on 17 December, 2016 at 9:21 am
    1. Thank you, hope you had a great holiday season too x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:48 pm
  26. I totally agree – family time is so important. It’s nice sometimes to take a break from the computer to really re-connect to the people who mean the most to you. #PoCoLo
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    Posted on 17 December, 2016 at 2:51 pm
    1. Thank you, we definitely did plenty of that in December and we’re all better off for it x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:50 pm
  27. Ahh I love this, it’s so important to prioritise your time, I know I will always put my family first at this time of year especially. I have no plans to blog over Christmas and new year, I want to just relax, enjoy our time and come back in 2017 with new ideas and inspiration! #fabfridaypost
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    Posted on 17 December, 2016 at 6:49 pm
    1. Thank you, hope you had a great Christmas x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:50 pm
  28. I love this post!!! For us yes, family is always first… I left my full time job as a Paralegal and full bloom (was working in a pretty good firm) just because I was not spending enough time with them.
    Even though my family was against my decision and ignored me for almost 2 months I know what I did was the right thing to do. Now I work part time outside from home, spend the rest of the day with kids and I blog at night for only 2 hours. It is not a perfect schedule for some days but it is working out for now. #FamilyFun

    Posted on 17 December, 2016 at 11:43 pm
    1. Thank you. What a brave decision, and your decision to make. We all need to do what feels right for us so well done x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:52 pm
  29. These are definitely words to live by. I really need to sort out more of a schedule for next year, because at the moment I feel a bit all over the place. x #CandidCuddles

    Posted on 18 December, 2016 at 10:37 am
    1. My current schedule is practically nonexistent, but I have a new much stricter one for the new year that will hopefully give me the balance I need. Good luck with yours too x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:54 pm
  30. Sometimes it’s nice to just stop what you doing and treasure the moment, sometimes I have to remind myself of this. Love those quotes and thanks for linking up lovely #bestandworst
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    Posted on 18 December, 2016 at 9:58 pm
    1. Thank you, I think we all need a little reminder now and then x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:55 pm
  31. I think this might be my favourite words to live by so far, and it couldn’t be a better time of year to be living by these ones. Glad you managed to enjoy some time off with your family. Thank you for sharing with #bigpinklink x
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    Posted on 18 December, 2016 at 11:56 pm
    1. Aww, thank you. We definitely all benefited from that extra time together x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:56 pm
  32. Totally agree! Family is number 1 around here, anything else can wait. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday
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    Posted on 19 December, 2016 at 2:29 pm
    1. Thank you, nothing else is ever as important x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:56 pm
  33. Absolutely!! Great quotes too #KCACOLS
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    Posted on 20 December, 2016 at 9:54 pm
    1. Thank you x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:57 pm
  34. Hope you had a lovely Christmas and wishing you a very happy 2017. getting the balance right is tough isn’t it – I find trying to snatch some time here and there is a good ploy, especially with commenting. Sometimes I think I’ll set some time aside and it becomes too big a thing and I achieve nothing! Thanks for sharing with #PoCoLo and for linking with us this year, it’s been lovely to get to know more about you and your blog 🙂
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    Posted on 27 December, 2016 at 1:18 pm
    1. Thank you. It was great taking the time off. Commenting always seems to take so much longer than you think it will doesn’t it? Hope you had a great Christmas and new year x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:59 pm
  35. This is exactly how it should be! It must be hard being away from him for such long periods of time.

    Stevie x
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    Posted on 29 December, 2016 at 12:04 am
    1. Thank you, it is hard but we have learnt how to make the best of it x

      Posted on 1 January, 2017 at 11:59 pm
  36. You’re so right! Family is the most important thing to me and while I love blogging they will always come first. Glad you had a good time taking time off and hope you had a lovely Christmas. Thanks for linking to #pocolo, hope to read more from you in 2017. Xxx

    Posted on 29 December, 2016 at 9:58 am
    1. Thank you, I’ve really enjoyed the time off but raring to go again now. Hope you had a good Christmas too x

      Posted on 2 January, 2017 at 12:00 am
  37. Great post. It’s good to take time away and not let blogging take over. I think this is one of my favourite posts I’ve read recently. Remembering what it’s all about #kcacols
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    Posted on 6 January, 2017 at 10:45 pm
    1. Aww, thank you so much. Glad it resonated with you x

      Posted on 10 January, 2017 at 1:40 pm
  38. I honestly commend you for taking a break and with your husband away for a long stretch, it is so understandable. I took a blog break last Summer as well as Christmas 2015 and was meant to take a proper break over this Christmas but (stupidly) worked on an end of year post and then wrote something when George Michael went and THEN worked on stuff for a new vlog series. When will I ever learn? Anyway going back to you, well done for putting family first. Love those quotes. I hope you managed to enjoy Christmas; my husband used to go away on business for two month stretches for a period of almost two years. Nearly killed me; the kids were really young so I appreciate your strength and know how hard it is. Thanks so much for all the #candidcuddles support and wonderful linked words. Hope to see you again in 2017!
    absolutely prabulous recently posted…25 Things That Annoy the Hell Out of BloggersMy Profile

    Posted on 8 January, 2017 at 9:51 pm
    1. Aww thank you so much for this, it means a lot. You certainly have been busy over Christmas, can’t wait to see the new blog series x

      Posted on 10 January, 2017 at 2:03 pm