This morning I read a post from the lovely Tracey over at Mummy Shire that really resonated with me. It was all about being more mindful with our children and laid down a challenge.
If you have read this blog for any amount of time you will have heard me mention that I recently started practising mindfulness meditation and how it has really helped me. Last month my practice slipped a bit and I have made a commitment in my Monthly Bucket List May 2017 post to get back into making it part of my daily routine. I am also wanting to find ways to incorporate mindfulness into other areas of my life and this challenge seemed like the perfect opportunity.
What Is The Challenge?
The challenge itself was actually set up by Your Family under the hashtag #YFMomsChallenge and Tracey heard about it through Jacqui at One Messy Mama (you’ve got the love the way this blogging community works). Here is what it says on the Your Family website:
We’ve set a tiny challenge for each day, a single thought or prompt that’ll have a big impact over the next 31 days. You’ll learn a lot about them, and talk more about the important things in their world and yours. Join us on our journey to more mindful mothering…
- Ask: what have you been thinking about lately?
- Tell your child: I’m glad you are my son/daughter.
- Go 24 hours without raising your voice.
- Limit your screen time and use these minutes/hours to read to your child, talk to them.
- Have a staring contest with your child.
- Ask: what is your favourite joke?
- Ask: what makes you afraid?
- Remember yourself at their age. Think about what you enjoyed and valued about your own mom.
- Teach your child a new skill.
- Practice listening to your child without interrupting.
- Ask your child’s opinion on something that’s important to the family.
- Make or buy them their favourite snack.
- Ask: what’s your lucky number, and why?
- Watch them while they are asleep.
- Ask: when last did you cry, and why?
- Ask: where would you visit if you could go anywhere?
- Rub their shoulders or give them a hug. Say: I remember when you used to fit in my arms.
- Ask: what is your earliest memory?
- Think of the best mother you know. Model her most admirable quality today.
- Picture how you’d like your children to remember you. Is your behaviour moving you towards or away from that image?
- Swap their evening story for a joke book. Laughing together is a great way to bond.
- Watch their favourite program with them. Give it your undivided attention.
- Say: I’ve learnt the most amazing things from you.
- Ask: what’s been the best day of your life so far?
- Ask: what’s the best thing that’s happened to you this week?
- Bake something with your child. Use the time for casual chatter.
- Play your child a song that reminds you of him/her.
- Start a family scrapbook, or spend time looking at their baby albums together.
- Tell them something you are grateful for today, and ask them to share something of their own.
- Ask: which 5 words would your friends use to describe you?
- Avoid the N word: explore different ways to say no.
I really like the idea of asking all these different questions and connecting with my children on a different level, although I do think days 3 and 31 will be the hardest!
How Can I Take Part?
Any way you like.
My plan is to print out the list then put it in my diary like a bookmark, moving it along each day and ticking them off as I complete them. You could blog about it, keep it private, write it in your diary, stick it up on your fridge, whatever works for you. Mummy Shire is tweeting/blogging about it using #MindfulMothering so you could use this and/or #YFMomsChallenge. I will probably use both.
Will you take the challenge with us?