This post is part of the ‘Tales From The Other Side Of …’ series. There are so many stages, achievements, milestones and heartbreaks we go through as parents and whatever we are experiencing, whether good, bad, exciting or terrifying, it’s always nice to know someone else has already done it and come through the other side. To find out how you can get involved and share your story/tips and tricks click here. Today we have the lovely Sue from Mama Mia with her breastfeeding story.


Just because we may want to breastfeed, or feel like we 'should', things don't always go to plan. Read on to hear Sue's story ...

Mama’s Feeding Story:

My feeding story is very simple in some respects. I wanted to breastfeed. We tried desperately to breastfeed. I couldn’t breastfeed. She was so small and I couldn’t figure out how to get her to latch. We didn’t manage it. I felt like I had failed so badly and used to cry a lot about it. I felt that I wasn’t giving her the best. But sometimes in parenthood you have to make really hard decisions about the best thing for us as a family. When we started bottle feeding it was like a weight was lifted. This was when our bond really began. Mia is my everything.

Mia’s Feeding Story:

When I came into the world out of Mama’s tummy everything was very confusing. Everything seemed so big. Mama kept giving me her booby but I couldn’t figure out how to make the milk come out. It was OK though because she gave me milk in a syringe and then a bottle. It would make me feel all full and lovely and sleepy and it tasted yummy. Mama used to cry a lot though. That made me sad because she’s the best. One day she stopped with the booby which was nice because it used to annoy me that I couldn’t get the milk out when I was hungry. She started giving me a bottle and the milk tasted a bit different but was still yummy and filled me up. Mama still cried sometimes but it was like a weight was lifted. She felt happier and that made me happy. Now we laugh and play and go on adventures to different places together. She is my everything.

This post first appeared on Sue’s own blog as part of World Breastfeeding Week. I think it’s so important to remember not to put too much pressure on ourselves. Just because we may want to breastfeed, or feel like we ‘should’, things don’t always go to plan. It doesn’t mean we have failed, we just need to adapt and find what works best for us and our baby. Despite not having too many problems with my son, my daughter really struggled with breastfeeding and would get so frustrated, the minute I gave myself a break and moved to a bottle she was a different baby and we were all a lot happier.

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33 thoughts on “Breast Isn’t Always Best

  1. I struggled at the beginning to breastfeed my son. I was super stubborn and we figured it out even though it hurt a lot.

    But I wonder now if it was worth the trouble I went too. I’m not a breast is best aficionado at all. It’s actually hard work and very limiting for a new mum. I don’t know if I’d make the same choice now with hindsight. I never really enjoyed it much.

    I just think we all need to get our babies fed. There is no failure or success when it comes to feeding a newborn. In the past babies probably would die if the mother struggled. We should be more thankful for the choices formula gives us!

    #thesatsesh

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 7:37 am
  2. The decision was taken out of my hands because J’s sugar levels were so low – she was whisked away from us and put straight into neonatal with a bottle because of it. Whilst I support breastfeeding, as long as the baby gets fed thats the important thing, especially in an emergency #thesatsesh

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 7:43 am
  3. Best I feel is that the baby gets fed. whether that’s through breast or bottle is no ones business but your own. My wife struggled through multiple issues with breast feeding both of our kids. There appears to be a huge pressure from some parts of society to only feed via the breast. Just like you when we eventually used the bottle a huge weight was lifted. The children started feeding, I could help out more and Mammy could get some much needed rest.

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 7:45 am
  4. I really struggled with breast feeding. To the point where I would cry through the entire feed. My little terror’s birth father wasn’t supportive in anyway! I ended up giving up at 6 weeks, I have no regret in giving up because I know I tried my hardest. He took to the bottle straight away and I was a happier mum for it. You can only do what is right for you and your baby. Fed is best. #TheSatSesh

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 8:49 am
  5. I’ll never understand how some people can be so judgemental. Especially when they don’t know the struggles a mum might have been through. Breastfeeding is great ( I got there eventually) but fed is best. A baby is much more likely to thrive when their mum is happy and healthy so well done mum for making the best decision for you and your baby. #thesatsesh

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 9:47 am
  6. Personally I think that breast is best if you are able. However, if it doesn’t work for you then fed is best. No one should ever feel bad if they can’t breast feed. #KCACOLS

    Posted on 7 October, 2017 at 8:40 pm
  7. I agree! Fed is best. No matter how you will be feeding your baby as long as you both are happy. I know it’s natural and really good for baby but it’s not the only way and if it’s not working for some reasons that it’s better to try something else
    #KCACOLS

    Posted on 8 October, 2017 at 10:02 pm
  8. Great post. It’s so hard making that decision to stop breastfeeding but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. My first baby had pretty much exactly the same issue. I tried pumping her feeds for a while but couldn’t keep up with it. Baby number two fed no problem. Every baby is different. Well done for sharing this and I love that its told from the baby’s POV x #familyfunlinky

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 6:35 am
  9. I couldn’t breast feed my eldest. He was in hospital for 8 days and despite trying to pump between hospital visits and many desperate attempts to get him to feed I gave up. I was more bothered about him staying alive than whether he should have a breast or bottle but I did feel under pressure to keep trying from staff in the hospital. With my second he feed much easier and I enjoyed the whole experience it was completely different! #familyfun

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 7:43 am
  10. No, it isn’t. I know this well, because my first born wasn’t breastfed but the second took breastmilk, they are both fine. #familyfunlinky
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    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 11:40 am
  11. Breastfeeding my eldest was so hard no matter what I did she wouldn’t gain weight on just my milk & due to her jaundice she badly needed to so I had to formula feed to make sure she gained & now she is a happy and healthy 7 year old. I’m a strong believer that fed is best. Providing babies are fed mother’s shouldn’t be judged on how it’s done. #familyfunlinky
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    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 11:53 am
  12. Thank-you for sharing this, there is far too much pressure on mums to breastfeed. Becoming a mother for the first time should be magical, not one stooped in guilt. The more we as mums can stick together and support one another, letting all mums understand that its feeding your child which is important and not how we feed the better xx

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 12:49 pm
  13. Fed is definitely best. I didn’t breastfeed through my own choice. I was made to feel guilty on many an occasion. My Little Man has turned out just fine. There are so many opinions out there, no one should be made to feel bad for their personal choice! #familyfun

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 1:02 pm
  14. I bf, still do, I imagine if I couldn’t do it I would have felt a failure and is something I mill over about the upcoming second child. I just assume it’ll work out again but there are those odds!
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    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 6:49 pm
  15. Ahhh thats such a lovely post and you are right, breastfeeding is not for everyone dues to lots of different reasons. #familyfun

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 7:03 pm
  16. I think you’re right we definitely need to not put pressure on ourselves and just do what is best for us and baby. #familyfun

    Posted on 9 October, 2017 at 10:49 pm
  17. I am totally behind fed is best. Mum and baby need to work out what works for them so they are both happy and baby is well fed. It sounds like this mama made the best decision for both of them. Lovely story #kcacols
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    Posted on 10 October, 2017 at 9:14 am
  18. It’s got to work for the family involved and of, the baby! If it doesn’t, no judgements. Must feed the baby! #family fun

    Posted on 10 October, 2017 at 4:40 pm
  19. #thesatsesh We absolutely need to stop feeling tricking guilty for just about everything in society….boobs included. Everyones journey is unique and varied….one childs story differs from the next, so sad that Mummies are left feeling inadequate. Food is best… and f you can save Mummies sanity, all the better.

    Posted on 10 October, 2017 at 9:20 pm
  20. It’s lovely if you can, its lovely if you can’t. A long as you and bubba are feeling lovely, that’s all that matters.

    #KCACOLS

    Posted on 10 October, 2017 at 10:21 pm
  21. I can relate to this as I too wanted to breastfeed my girls but couldn’t for different reasons. #thesatsesh
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    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 10:27 am
  22. I totally agree with this. Breast wasn’t best for me, it actually contributed to me having PND and I think my experience as a new mother would have been very different had I bottle fed from the start. Feeding your baby is a personal choice and I think we all need to respect the choices we make as parents. #kcacols

    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 1:10 pm
  23. Mia got fed and she thrived, and you got started on your journey into motherhood, that’s what matters.
    #FamilyFun
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    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 2:38 pm
  24. I don’t think breast was best for my pair, they both seemed to hate it and when they pushed me away screaming it caused me to think my babies hated me and lead to PND.
    #kcacols
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    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 2:49 pm
  25. Just do what works for you and your kid – that is all! #kcacols

    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 7:41 pm
  26. My sister couldn’t breast feed her kids. And a couple of people I know didn’t want to. My wife breast fed my son. All kids are healthy and happy regardless. Fed is best. Always. #kcacols

    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 9:15 pm
  27. I love this picture – I too struggled to breastfeed our eldest and found the pressure immense. xx #familyfunlinky
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    Posted on 12 October, 2017 at 9:43 pm
  28. I really feel for her – I have managed to breastfeed all three of mine & would have been very upset if I couldn’t #KCACOLS
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    Posted on 14 October, 2017 at 10:47 am
  29. I can totally relate to this. I struggled to breastfeed both my boys and ended up expressing my milk for the first 8 weeks whilst also giving formula. I put myself under so much pressure and definitely felt a weight was lifted when I switched to just bottle feeding! At the end of the day the boys were getting fed and not going hungry so that is what really counts. #KCACOLS
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    Posted on 15 October, 2017 at 9:57 am
  30. Such a great and important post. There is so much pressure ,often mostly from ourselves!! #FamilyFunLinky
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    Posted on 15 October, 2017 at 8:16 pm
  31. I had 2 completely different breastfeeding stories. My first was awful and left me crying loads too. My second was the total opposite. So sad that we feel like failures though. We are anything but! x
    #kcacols

    Posted on 15 October, 2017 at 8:30 pm
  32. I am a firm believer in giving it a go, if it doesn’t work for whatever reason then that’s what formula is for! However the pressure I put on myself to breastfeed was immense, I struggled with all three of mine. The guilt I suffered from in my mind “giving up” at 8 weeks with my first was horrific and made me as stubborn as a mule to feed my second and third! Just catching up with #KCACOLS – better late than never eh?!

    Posted on 21 October, 2017 at 8:31 pm
  33. Very spot on post. I did try breastfeeding my little one for as long as I could, but it was really exhausting when going back to work.

    Posted on 23 October, 2017 at 2:54 pm