Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you a new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
Without further ado, this weeks words are:
There have been a few occasions this week (and thousands in my lifetime) when my husband told me to stop overthinking. I have a way overanalysing everything to such a degree that I get myself all worked up over nothing. One example was reorganising one of our pull-out larders. In my head it was a huge job that I needed to make time for and then I needed to work out what layout would work best when putting everything back in. It’s a job I have been wanting to get done for months but never started. We were talking about it the other day and he uttered those words. Instead of brushing him off I decided he was right and there and then I pulled everything out of the larder, throwing all the out of date packets in the bin and piling the rest on the floor at my feet. Once half of it was thrown away I could actually see what we had and putting it all back in in some sort of order was actually really simple. The whole thing took me 15 minutes! Months and months of putting it off and in 15 measly minutes it was done.
“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” Bruce Lee
“If you keep thinking about what you want to do or what you hope will happen, you don’t do it, and it won’t happen.” Desiderius Erasmus
When it came to writing today’s post I had an entirely different set of words lined up. In fact, I had about 3-4 different ideas for what this weeks words should be and have been thinking about them all morning, unable to decide which to go with. I would start writing out one and then not feel I was doing it justice and change to something else. About an hour in those words appeared in my head; stop overthinking. It was like a lightbulb moment. Those are the words I need to live by this week.
“Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It’s self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can’t try to do things. You simply must do things.” Ray Bradbury
Before I had chance to overthink things again and start to question myself, I opened up this document and started typing.(quotes added later)
“Don’t get too deep, it leads to overthinking, and overthinking leads to problems that don’t even exist in the first place.” Jayson Engay
So, we’ve established that I’m good at overthinking mundane tasks and my writing, but I’m also good at overthinking other areas of my life too (I’m talented, I know). Here is is a list of just some of the stuff that I can overthink on a regular basis:
- What to wear – seriously, why? Most of the time I’m just sat in the house with a toddler, but I can still stare into the wardrobe for a good 15 minutes mentally discarding outfits. Even more ridiculous when I pretty much live in jeans with either a vest/t-shirt and hoody or a jumper, not exactly making any style statements!
- What to eat – breakfast is always easy, I love my cereal, everything else and it’s like my brain implodes. It doesn’t help that I’m vegetarian and no-one else in the house is, and both the kids are fussy eaters, so trying to please everyone is almost impossible. I can spend so long staring into the fridge that I end up running out of time and my options are immediately limited to things I can cook in 30 minutes. I even overthink what to choose when we eat out, and being vegetarian there are usually only two options to choose from anyway.
- Where to go on a day out – I can really overthink every tiny detail when it comes to going anywhere, but when we do finally get out the door you can guarantee I will have forgotten to pack some highly important item, like nappies, or baby wipes, or suncream, or my purse! Thankfully I haven’t forgotten one of the kids yet, but I fear it’s only a matter of time 😉
- How to decorate L’s bedroom – poor girl has had her new bed in there for three weeks now and I still haven’t decided how I’m going to decorate it. I must have looked at thousands of beautiful wall stickers but I can’t seem to make a decision because with every single one I overthink everything; will she like it in a years time, is it too girly, is it not girly enough, is it too big, is it too small, it seems too cheap will it be crap, it seems too expensive it can’t be that much better – you get the picture.
- What did he/she mean by that? – a throw away comment that meant nothing at all at the time can pop back into my head and I can over analyse it to death wondering if they meant something else rather than taking it at face value.
- Is my blog any good? Is anyone even reading? – I am getting so many amazing comments at the minute that people clearly are reading it, but it still doesn’t stop me overthinking it.
To be honest I could go on and on but I think you get the idea and I am fairly certain that I am not the only one guilty of all this useless overthinking (please tell me I’m not!). So, this week I am going to make a concerted effort to stop. I am going to just get on and do.
To round off the post and get you inspired to join me in this weeks challenge I have found lots of great quotes that say all of this way better than I ever could.
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.” English Proverb
“My father taught me not to overthink things, that nothing will ever be perfect, so just keep moving and do your best.” Scott Eastwood
“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” William Shakespeare
“The more you overthink the less you will understand.” Habeeb Akande
“Too much overthinking leads to paralysis by analysis. It’s important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.” Robert Herjavec
“The sharpest minds often ruin their lives by overthinking the next step, while the dull win the race with eyes closed.” Bethany Brookbank
“To think too much is a disease.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking.” Eckhart Tolle
“Stop thinking, and end your problems.” Lao Tzu
Are you an overthinker? Let me know in the comments below.
Have a great week x