Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you a new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
Do you ever wish you could be more/do more? Be more creative, more confident, more outgoing, fitter, healthier, more patient, more focused, more successful. Do you ever wish you could be more like a certain person? “If only I had their confidence/patience/attitude etc, my life we be so much better.”
I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that you all said yes. I’m pretty sure that everyone has experienced these feelings at least once in their life, if not several times a day. It’s part of human nature.
Well, this week’s words to live by could be just what you need.
I’m sure you’ve all heard the phrase ‘fake it till you make it’, I used it myself in my Smile Like You Mean It post. I’ve always been a big believer in this philosophy, and still am, but don’t always find it easy to put into action. In some instances it just doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t resonate with the situation I’m in or what I’m feeling at the time.
The past week I have been reading the book She Means Business by Carrie Green (truly inspiring). Carrie often talks about becoming the person you need to be in order to succeed and the last few days I’ve kept hearing a phrase on repeat in my head – Be the person the you want to become.
Something about this phrase resonates with me on a much deeper level. After typing the phrase into google it seems to be a pretty popular philosophy. I found hundreds of quotes that all seem to say the same thing. You all know how much I love a good quote.
I would love to be the type of person who makes time to meditate every day. I recently reviewed a Mindfulness Mediation app and loved the focus it gave me and the way it made me feel but I wasn’t being consistent with the practice. Deciding to act like the type of person who meditates daily and make it part of my morning routine has made a big difference. I even added it to my Monthly Bucket List. It seems like such a minor shift of mindset but since I made it I haven’t missed a single session. Every time I think about skipping it I imagine that I am that person who meditates daily and then I sit down and do it.
This week I am going to work on using this philosophy in all areas of my life. I wish I had more patience with my children. When they are being loud and boisterous it sets off my anxiety and I become shouty mum within seconds. I desperately want to be the kind of parent that can just let their kids be kids.
This morning they were doing the usual ritual of seeing who could make the most noise. I started to feel my anxiety kicking in and I heard that phrase in my head again. Be the person you want to become. I thought ‘what would a patient mother do right now?’ The answer of course was just let them carry on. They weren’t being naughty, they weren’t hurting anyone, they were just being kids and having fun. So I took a deep breathe and continued with what I was doing. Eventually the anxiety diminished. I don’t know how this worked, but it did.
Another example is that I want to be the kind of mother who my children can talk to, and who truly listens. This used to be something I was really good at, but I always seem to be multitasking these days. Yes I listen to them, but I can’t honestly say that I truly hear them all the time. My mind is always pre-occupied with something else.
Last Thursday my son started to tell me about his day at school while I was clearing the table. Usually I would have continued to clear away while he talked and then offered whatever advice I thought he needed. This time I heard that phrase again and I put down the plate I was holding down and sat next to him. I truly listened. I didn’t interrupt or offer any advice. He’d had a pretty bad day and was worried about a few things but in the end he just talked and found his own solution. When he was finished he hugged me and said thank you and that I’d made him feel better. It damn near broke my heart.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying this is some kind of magic pill and from this moment on I will never shout at my kids and will always listen intently to their every word. But, that subtle change in mindset has really worked for me. Now I want to keep it up and see if I can apply it consistently in all areas of my life. I want to be the kind of person who really enjoys exercise. Who doesn’t crave sugar every minute of the day. I have a feeling this may be a bigger project, but who knows, it could put me on the right track. Even if I can be that person for a short period of the day it will be a step in the right direction.
Try it for yourself and see if it makes any difference to your life. Let me know how you get on in the comments, I’d love to hear your experiences.
If you want to read the book that inspired this post you can get it here:
Fancy a printable with all these quotes and more? How about a few exercise to help you put these words into action? Download the FREE workbook below.
Have a great week x
*this post includes an amazon affiliate link. Buying through here may earn me a few pence, but will make no difference to the price you pay.