Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you a new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
This week’s post almost didn’t happen. When I first started this series I never knew in advance what the words would be. I often wrote and published it all within 1-2 hours on a Monday afternoon while L napped. As the series took on a life of it’s own and I learnt more about blogging and making graphics the posts naturally took longer to write and edit. And then I decided to create workbooks for each post in the series too.
Apart from the Happy Days posts on Saturday’s I try not to write over the weekend so that I can spend more time with the kids. This meant writing on Friday afternoons. Then L gave up her nap (see 5 Signs Your Toddler Is Ready To Give Up Nap Time – Even If You’re Not) and I have to snatch bits of time throughout Thursday and Friday now in order to get this post and the accompanying workbook ready for publication on a Monday. (I’m getting to the point I promise, stick with me.)
So, in the week that this post needed to be written the Friday was out because Hubby was finally coming back from Sea and I would be picking him up from the airport (yay!!). The Thursday was also out because we have toddler group in the mornings and then I would be frantically cleaning the house in the afternoon and doing all the jobs I can’t do with a toddler running around once the kids were in bed. So the plan was to write the post at the start of the week. Then L became ill yet again and has been extremely clingy; the lack of sleep was seriously addling my brain.
For obvious reasons I considered not posting. Aside from the lack of time and energy, I also didn’t have a clue what words to focus on.
Then it happened. As it so often does.
M was upset about some work he’d struggled with that day and the fact his teacher had told him off for not trying hard enough. I asked if he had tried and he said he had. I asked if he’d tried his best and he assured me he had but they were making him use a pencil grip to improve his writing and it had slowed him down because he found it painful to hold. She was expecting him to produce the same amount of work he was normally capable of without taking into account that he was struggling with an added variable outside his control. Just because it wasn’t as good as his previous best, doesn’t mean he wasn’t still doing his best.
Which leads us to this week’s Words To Live By:
Do Your Best
We can all be hugely critical of ourselves at times and think that we ‘should’ be doing more, but all anyone can ever do is their best. And our best may change from week to week.
Some days we are ill, or our children are. The car might break down. An unexpected workload may get dumped on your plate. Something in your personal life may be praying on your mind and making you distracted. All of these things will have an impact on what you can achieve. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves and realise all we can do is our best.
I had so much on my plate this last week I didn’t know how to do this post justice. At the same time I knew I really wanted to get something out. So, I’ve done my best. It may not be the best post I’ve ever written, but it is the best post I’ve been able to write in the time I had available.
Some of you may be reading this thinking it all sounds a bit passive. From the title were probably expecting more of a motivational kick up the butt to do better. Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered, just not this week. Come back for part 2 next Monday and I’ll give you all a jump start to your week.
In the meantime, stop being so hard on yourself and do what you can. I’ll leave you with this great poem:
Have a great week everyone, and remember to check out the FREE workbook below for a printout of these quotes (and more) and a couple of exercises to help you with this week’s words if you want try them x
UPDATE: Part 2 is now live, read it here: Do Your Best – Part 2