Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you a new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
Welcome back for Part 2 of Do Your Best. If you missed part 1 you can catch it here: Words To Live By #18: Do You Best – Part 1.
Last week I said all you can ever do is your best and to give yourself a break. I believe this is extremely important but I also mentioned at the end of the post that it could seem a little passive. It’s all too easy to say ‘oh well, I did my best’ and then move on, not getting the results we really want. I know, because I’m guilty of this myself.
I promised you a kick up the butt this week and that’s what I’m going to give you. So, pull up your big girl pants and lets get started.
Last week I could have easily justified not posting. I really had been snowed under and having a poorly toddler to look after didn’t help. But I knew in my heart that that wouldn’t be me doing my best. That would be me looking for an easy way out. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes you need to take some time out. I’ve certainly done that in the past (see my Listen to Your Body post). This time I didn’t need time off, I just needed to get my butt in the chair and write.
I knew that putting in the effort and pushing myself to do everything I could with the time I had would benefit me in the future. Not just because I would have another post published, but because I would be proving to myself that I have what it takes. Next time I’m in a similar situation, instead of thinking “I didn’t manage last time so I may as well not bother this time” , I will know that I am capable of working under pressure.
Next time you’re wondering why something didn’t work out or why you didn’t get the results you were hoping for, ask yourself “did I really do my best? Could I have done any more?” If the answer is yes, you did your absolute best and put everything you had into it, then well done, you probably don’t need to read this post at all. I’m going to hazard a guess though that at least some (if not the majority) of you will find that actually, you maybe did hold back a little.
I have to clarify here, I’m not talking about how well you cleaned the house or whether you managed to keep on top of the laundry. I’m talking about the things that really matter to you. If there is a goal you are working towards, a dream you have, the only way to ensure you get there is to do your best. You don’t give up and say ‘oh well, I tried”. You keep trying.
As I mentioned in Part 1, our best will differ from day to day. The more we do something the better we become and our best improves. Likewise, factors outside of our control can mean our best is simply getting out of bed in the morning. Only you can know what your best is at any given time. If you don’t give your best the only person you are really cheating is yourself.
If you are consistently not giving your all on a project, you need to ask yourself why. There will always be a reason, something you need to work on before you can move forward. If you can’t do your best on the project itself, do your best to figure out what the problem is.
There are a number of common things that can hold you back from giving your all:
- Fear – of failure; of success and what that will bring with it; of judgement and what others may think (read Stop Overthinking and Go With The Flow).
- Lack of self-confidence – you don’t believe you’re capable so why bother? (Read Place One Block and Yes You Can)
- Time – prioritising other tasks and putting your own goals last (read Be Committed).
- Wrong goal – if your heart isn’t in it you’re not going to give it your best (read Dream Big).
- Lack of direction – you don’t really know where to go or what to do next (read Place One Block).
- Lack of skills – is there something you need to learn in order to be able to do your best? (Read Learn Something New)
- Overthinking (read Stop Overthinking)
- Overworked/tired (read Listen to Your Body)
Need help working through any blocks so you can move forward? Download the FREE workbook below. As usual I’ve included a print out of this week’s quotes with a couple of extra ones thrown in for good measure as well.
Now go kick ass x
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