Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you’re new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
Have you ever noticed how when you are having a bad day, everything that can go wrong, will go wrong? Well, according to The Law of Attraction, a lot of that has to do with the energy we are putting out into the world.
The basic premise of The Law of Attraction is that ‘like attracts like’. In other words, if you are giving out a lot of negative energy, you will attract more negative energy to you. Likewise, if you are giving out positive energy you will attract positive energy back.
I have struggled with negativity a lot over the years and always try to make the effort to focus on the positive aspects. Some days I manage better than others but I know for a fact that when I am in a negative mood, everything gets worse. It may not be that anything bad or particularly negative happens, but I will perceive normal things in a negative way. Here are a couple of examples you may be familiar with:
- Someone makes a lighthearted comment or joke. When in a positive mood you can laugh and have a joke back and everyone is happy. When in a negative mood you take it to heart, rather than as a joke, and become upset or angry, which in turn will upset the person making the remark because you have twisted their words into something they didn’t intend.
- The kids are chasing each other round and making enough noise to raise the dead. When in a positive mood you can smile and laugh at them being silly and having fun, and maybe even join in. When in a negative mood you become annoyed and see them as being naughty, you’ll likely tell them off and they will in turn become upset.
This positive or negative energy then not only affects you, but those around you, and will have a cumulative effect. A positive attitude creates more positive emotions and happiness, a negative attitude creates more negativity and sadness or anger.
I have been trying to explain this principle to my son lately because he is extremely negative when it comes to school days. He will wake up on a school morning and groan about all the bad things that are going to happen that day. When you hear him relate his day back to you later that night there is nothing bad there, but he still perceives it has having been an awful day because he already decided it was going to be, so every little thing was experienced in a negative way.
I had a hard time yesterday because I wasn’t feeling very well. I got myself worked up and into a negative mood about all the things I was wanting to get done but not going to be able to and I found myself telling the kids off for the slightest little thing. I saw my son’s mood change right before my eyes when I told him off for dancing round when I was trying to concentrate on something and I instantly regretted it. He was only dancing. He was being happy. And I told him off for it. That’s when I knew what the topic for this week’s words would be, it’s something that we all need to work on together.
For this week, whenever one of us starts to get negative about something, we will try and help each other reframe it. Looking at things from a different light can completely change your perception of them and help you shift focus to a positive outlook instead.
How about you? Do you struggle with negativity? Fancy joining us in giving this a go for the week?