Each week we change the words/quote/saying that we are displaying on the noticeboard in our kitchen; these are the words we try to live by individually and as a family that week. Some weeks may focus on lifting our mood, others may be about motivation or attitude to life; something that speaks to us on some level and that we can directly apply to our lives. Changing the words each week stops them from becoming just another thing you walk past without really seeing, it keeps things fresh and stops them losing their power. This series is where I share those words with you in the hope they may help you and your family too. If you’re new to the series and want to learn more, you can read the first post here, or check out the Words To Live By tab in the top menu.
Have you ever noticed how when you are having a bad day, everything that can go wrong, will go wrong? Well, according to The Law of Attraction, a lot of that has to do with the energy we are putting out into the world.
The basic premise of The Law of Attraction is that ‘like attracts like’. In other words, if you are giving out a lot of negative energy, you will attract more negative energy to you. Likewise, if you are giving out positive energy you will attract positive energy back.
I have struggled with negativity a lot over the years and always try to make the effort to focus on the positive aspects. Some days I manage better than others but I know for a fact that when I am in a negative mood, everything gets worse. It may not be that anything bad or particularly negative happens, but I will perceive normal things in a negative way. Here are a couple of examples you may be familiar with:
- Someone makes a lighthearted comment or joke. When in a positive mood you can laugh and have a joke back and everyone is happy. When in a negative mood you take it to heart, rather than as a joke, and become upset or angry, which in turn will upset the person making the remark because you have twisted their words into something they didn’t intend.
- The kids are chasing each other round and making enough noise to raise the dead. When in a positive mood you can smile and laugh at them being silly and having fun, and maybe even join in. When in a negative mood you become annoyed and see them as being naughty, you’ll likely tell them off and they will in turn become upset.
This positive or negative energy then not only affects you, but those around you, and will have a cumulative effect. A positive attitude creates more positive emotions and happiness, a negative attitude creates more negativity and sadness or anger.
I have been trying to explain this principle to my son lately because he is extremely negative when it comes to school days. He will wake up on a school morning and groan about all the bad things that are going to happen that day. When you hear him relate his day back to you later that night there is nothing bad there, but he still perceives it has having been an awful day because he already decided it was going to be, so every little thing was experienced in a negative way.
I had a hard time yesterday because I wasn’t feeling very well. I got myself worked up and into a negative mood about all the things I was wanting to get done but not going to be able to and I found myself telling the kids off for the slightest little thing. I saw my son’s mood change right before my eyes when I told him off for dancing round when I was trying to concentrate on something and I instantly regretted it. He was only dancing. He was being happy. And I told him off for it. That’s when I knew what the topic for this week’s words would be, it’s something that we all need to work on together.
For this week, whenever one of us starts to get negative about something, we will try and help each other reframe it. Looking at things from a different light can completely change your perception of them and help you shift focus to a positive outlook instead.
How about you? Do you struggle with negativity? Fancy joining us in giving this a go for the week?
54 thoughts on “Words To Live By #22 Be The Energy You Want To Attract”
Excellent words to live by! I like that you change it up because, yes, you would stop noticing the words if you didn’t.
Thank you x
Love this. I could do with some positive quotes in my life. It’s so easy to get bogged down in negative thoughts! #bigpinklink
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It really is. Thank you x
I know several people in my life just off the top of my head who could stand to read these quotes. Though they probably wouldn’t do much good because of all the negative thinking. I used to think negatively a lot myself. Sometimes I still have negative thoughts. We all do but I have found that the more conscious effort I put into thinking positively the more natural it becomes for me and now I don’t even have to think about it. And yes, I have seen the difference in the type of people it attracts to my life. Love these quotes!!
Thank you, it takes practice and everyone has negative moments but it makes a huge difference when you make the effort to turn things on their head x
It’s like the Pirates of the Carribean thing – it’s not the problem that’s the problem, your attitude about the problem is the problem….I am not a good energy attracter, but I’m working on it #GlobalBlogging
So true, I love that quote x
Living in today’s world, this is a post I must read daily, or at least weekly! Bravo Alana. Reaction and attitude is everything. What a great selection of quotes to treasure. Thank you! You are helping me keep my head about me! #GlobalBlogging #BigPinkLink
Ah thank you Lisa, it seems positivity is needed more today than ever x
I love this post! It’s so inspiring and we all need to read this weekly! #fortheloveofBLOG
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Aw, thank you Heather x
Oh I so so agree with the ethos of this! Give a sunflower sun and it will grow. It’s all about the positive vibe for sure. Negativity can really affect my creativity and massively stop me flourishing for myself. Sometimes it’s good to stop and work out why you are feeling negative – like you did yesterday as you were unwell – there’s usually a root cause and once you’ve identified it then things are a little easier to handle. As always, love your posts! #FamilyFun
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Aw, thank you. You’re right, there’s always a cause, sometimes its more obvious than others, but if you acknowledge it, its much easier to turn things around x
I love the power of attraction but recently have found it hard to be around members of my husbands family who are full of fear and anxiety, To the point that it’s debilitating and effects me. I’ve tried not to let it and come up with a positive in response, so I find that the hardest at the moment. #FamilyFunLinky
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It can be so difficult being around people like that. I find it easier if you plan something positive to do afterwards so that you have that to focus on and look forward to x
Like you, it totally depends on my mood! Usually not but somedays baaad. I have to try to see the fun in the kids and kick myself up the bum. You are very right in this!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x
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They don’t make it easy on us do they?!
I can totally relate to your experiences with the law of attraction, and I love the quotes you’ve used to illustrate it. My oldest son is highly sensitive and like yours, he tends to focus on the negatives. Not from the onset, but he’ll only remember the bad things that happened during the day, rather than being thankful for the good stuff. We went camping recently, and all he talks about when the weekend gets mentioned, is the midges that ate him alive while packing the tent. Not a word about the fun he had with his siblings, or the beautiful hike we did the previous day. Not sure how to change his outlook, but displaying one of your quotes might help.
I’m glad my son isn’t the only one. Its a process but I’m positive we can help him turn it around. It will be much easier to work on now than when he is an adult x
It’s all the way we look at things isn’t it – glass half full or half empty & all that #familyfunlinky
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Absolutely, thank you x
Oh you do Pick great quotes. It’s easy at the end of a school year to get into a bit of a downward spiral everyone is tired and I am trying hard to keep that positivity going! My son is extremely negative at times as he suffers from anxiety I am trying to teach him this lesson too. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉
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Thank you. Anxiety and negativity seem to go hand in hand don’t they and it can be very hard cycle to break out of x
This is such a great philosophy and one I’ve stumbled across a few times in life. Putting it into practice isn’t always easy but as you say, a sunny positive outlook can only be a better way to live.
Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub
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Thank you. It’s definitely easier said than done at times but making the effort is half the battle x
Yay – so pleased to see the words to live by series back 🙂 – this is very mindfulness based – basically the negativity bias that we all have can cause very powerful habitual thoughts if we’re not careful. Being mindful of this is soooo important. Thanks for the reminder #ablogginggoodtime
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Thank you Halyley, I’ve definitely noticed it’s easier on the days when I have been practicing mindfulness meditation x
I love this. My favourite saying at the moment is ‘replace expectation with appreciation’. It’s amazing how much it helps me when I’m feeling negitive
Ooh that’s a really good one, thank you x
Alana I’ve realised how much I missed this series! I think I need to take a leap from this today. I always rush around and always say I’m tired which is so true. So I’m going to stop rushing and take a moment to just sit and play rather than get to the extra play group. We will hopefully both benefit from a bit more of my energy. If I’m more rested I’ll hopefully be more positive too! 😀
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Aww, thank you Karen. It’s definitely easier to be positive when we’re rested and some down time every now and then benefits everyone x
I always love the quotes that you put in these posts! This is a really interesting one, and something that I’m really working on at the moment. I recently had a dip in my mental health, where the anxiety and fear took over again-when I’m like that, absolutely everything is negative: I’ll feel like this for ever, I’m a terrible parent, my children should have been born to a better person, everyone hates me, etc etc. I’ve been given a few techniques to make the days feel a lot more positive-and it’s working already. I particularly like the quote ‘life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it.’ I can be a VERY extreme reactor-to the point of instantly deleting people from my life, for the slightest thing I perceive they’ve done to wrong me. I am also working on this! Thanks for another interesting post!
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I can totally relate to those feelings and it can be such a hard cycle to break free of. You say it’s taken over again, which means you’ve clawed your way out of it before, which means you can and will do it again. If you ever need anyone to chat to just drop me an email, I know all too well how isolating those feelings can be x
Great article! I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking.. not that it’s easy to always stay that way but I sure do try and I am trying to get that lesson to sink in with my boys as well.
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Thank you, it’s definitely easier said than done some days, but recognising that can be just the turning point you need x
Soooo true. Be the light, be the change you want to see.
It’s hard to stay positive, but it truly has a real domino effect when you dont. Thanks for linking up to #globalblogging
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I so agree, it only takes one grumpy person to spoil the mood and once every one is feeling negative everyone’s day is ruined. I try to tell my lot this all the time.
Oh I simply love this post! I am a big believer in the law of attraction. We think other people are causing things to happen but when we change how we behave, everyone else does too! It’s amazing. The quotes are perfect for your message. #SundaySmiles
It’s so important to focus on being more positive. It’s something that I’m really trying to do too. Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofblog
I struggle with the negative self talk and often find myself in a negative funk which makes everything I approach hard. As you say the most disappointing thing is the effect our moods have on the kids…..its made me stop and think about how I’m feeling so I can adjust accordingly. Love the idea of having weekly inspirational quotes! thanks for linking up to #FabFridayPost
#sundaysmiles I’m there, everyday trying to stay on a pathway of least resistance and positivity…its not as easy as the guru’s make out. BUT it is worth it, i use my fridge quotes in exactly the same way. Building resilience and allowing kids to choose happiness is key to mental wellbeing and you’re an ace momma for not giving up.
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I need to give this a go for the rest of my life! I do try to keep a positive outlook but some days it doesn’t come so easily. Your attitude makes all the difference, though, not just to you but to those around you, too. #sundaysmiles
Thank you so much for linking up with #SundaySmiles. I love this post and I really need to learn more about the law of attraction. This sounds right up my street!
This is so true! I know that so often the girls will be playing nosily and I don’t mind and other times I shout at them to be quiet. It must be so confusing for them, as it all comes down to me and my mood. I try really hard to see the positives in life, but the negative side does creep in. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
I love this and can totally relate. I struggle with negative thoughts and especially with anxiety, I need to find ways to feel more positive and to be the energy I want to attract, it makes perfect sense doesn’t it? Thank you for joining us at #Sharingthebloglove
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I love this! I normally look on the positive side but I really do notice how all our moods change when I am feeling down or negative. I certainly feel myself giving the kids a harder time when I’m not feeling 100%. I really like the way you are all going to work together to help each other reframe your thoughts. Hope it has been a good week for you. #sharingthebloglove
It’s so true and thanks for the reminder. Taking that first 5mins as I wake up to look at today through a positive window with gratitude is the best start. #Sharingthebloglove
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All very inspiring! #coolmumclub
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Oooh I love this, I’m terrible for being a negative nancy! I really need to up my game and bring some positivity into my life! Thanks for reminding me of that 🙂 #sharingthebloglove
I love a good motivational quote and absolutely stand by this too. I recently went to a women’s conference and one of the ladies spoke about finding the positivity in things. She likened us to the hummingbird who always look for nectar vs the vulture who always looks for death – what you seek is what you’ll find. It’s stayed with me ever since.
You’re so right – there are times when I can take a light hearted joke and others if i’m feeling sensitive or in a bad mood that I take it right to heart. Great post lovely x #SharingtheBlogLove
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This is a great post and having more positive thoughts and a positive attitude is definitely something I think I need to try to do more often. #SharingTheBlogLove